Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.
Now, this does NOT mean you should boss him around.
I'm not sure what the sound was — a car backfiring, a cat knocking over trash can, a wedding party firing celebratory shots into the air.
But whatever it was, the sound caused Omri to jump in his seat and tremble.
"Every day, we started cursing at two, shooting rubber bullets by four, and live ammunition by six," he said.
The first time he shot a man dead, Omri told me, he cried.
Fortunately, with a little adjustment and dedication, you can overcome these challenges.
To be a military girlfriend or boyfriend, keep your relationship strong, find ways to stay happy during the hard times, and show your support.
The nature of the role, with long hours and long periods abroad adds its own unique dating complexities. We have put together a few useful tips to keep in mind when you’re looking to date a military officer or anyone else in the armed forces.
These handy hints should help make it a little easier and ensure that your road to romance remains as bump-free as possible.
On the other hand, military online dating makes this a bit easier, giving you a way to communicate long-distance, but it’s not the same. While they are overseas, they may not be able to communicate for long stretches of time. People in the military spend their days crawling through mud, eating terrible food, and stuck for weeks on end in cramped quarters. Transfers between bases are common, and you may wind up in some far-flung locations.