" Ever wonder what other Christians think about sex? What we found were some misconceptions and unclear boundaries. Tim's a Christian who believes wholeheartedly in abstinence.He says, "If you remain abstinent until marriage, you're sexually pure." But then he says, "I think petting's all right."If you can last through foreplay, and not go all the way with it, you have a lot of self-control, and that's a good thing.
This should be no surprise, since we have an enemy set against us and our impending marriage (1 Pet. He hates God, and he hates marriage because it depicts the gospel (Eph. One of Satan's most effective strategies to corrupt the gospel-portraying union of marriage is to attack couples through sexual sin before they say “I do.” Here are four of his most common ploys to attack marriages before they begin.
God's ways are good, but Satan wants us to believe they aren't.
In another excellent article, “God Gives the Best Sex,” Dan Wilson explains that God’s grace for the unmarried is the key to true joy as well as living out a godly sexuality. Author Lauren Winner explains in that, “…chastity is the free choice to live one’s sexual life in accord with Christian values—therefore everyone is called to live chastely” (p. For the unmarried person, this means a life of purity through abstinence.
Because the idea of sexuality is often equated with sexual activity, those of us who are unmarried often miss the rich blessings God can pour out upon us as sons and daughters as sexual beings. For the married person, it means a life of purity through faithfulness.
Even so, many of these same students miss the point about other types of sexual activity.
"Actually, I think foreplay makes you stronger," says Jenny, 17.
” “It’s great, but it’s not for you, unless you’re ‘burning’…then get married! The unmarried to strive to be sexually pure and chaste—but then so are married folks.
Sadly, sexuality is often reduced to a definition along these lines, but it is crucial to have a fuller understanding of it while also being honest that we are embodied souls.
Godly unmarried sexuality is more than a call to abstain from sexual activity. When it comes to discussions of sexuality, singles (from the never-married teen, to the senior-something single-again, and all those in-between) are often counseled in these sorts of ways: “Don’t! All who live in God’s world belong to him (Psalm 24:1, 2) and are designed and called to live a life of purity.
Christ offers treasures to all who seek to live in a way that is pleasing to God as image bearers who are also sexual beings, including the unmarried. However, there is a profound reality of what godly unmarried sexuality is not.
But the majority of abstinence training only teaches half of the abstinence God calls for when it comes to intimate relationships between men and women.