Check back every week for her take on dating and relationships.Atlanta, Georgia (CNN) -- "Would you be upset if a friend starting dating someone they knew you were once deeply in love with? Unless for some odd reason your bestie is 100 percent OK with it, even considering her ex automatically qualifies you as a bad friend. I love my friends, but sharing the same sex partner as them just doesn't strike me as a turn on. You've heard every terrible thing that they did to your best friend.
Just because they did it in Friends, it doesn’t mean it’s OK in real life, guys.
Where relationships are concerned, going out with one of your mates’ ex partners is, whichever way you look at it, wrong.
For a moment, things got so bad that my ex and I stopped talking for a bit, but we're fine now, thankfully.
We met up recently, and it turned out, like with most things, to be a matter of miscommunication. I thought it was understood that exes are off limits to best friends, or hell, even good friends. Here's the thing: I don't ever want to date my ex again.
Often it’s hard to tell the two apart, especially if you’ve not been in a relationship or hooked up with anyone in a while.
If you can distinguish between the two and it’s nothing more than an urge for a wild boot-knocking, then stop right there because it’s definitely not worth it.
Like I said, years down the road perhaps you can consider it if you're still into it. Whatever the reason is, you have a moment of weakness and you hit up your ex. They ask about your dog and how your grandma Sue is doing, and for some reason you're aroused.
And a month-long relationship may not even count as a real "ex", but going after the remains of a four year relationship puts you on the bottom of my list and I don't even know you. Boredom/horny Maybe you're in the middle of a dry spell. Your ex is familiar and it won't increase your number at all #recycle. Satisfaction You know you broke up for some reason, but the sex is still damn good.
From "he just doesn't get me" to "we're too different" to "why did we stay together THAT long," women tend to overanalyze past relationships.