Should you choose to embark on recovery, you’re beginning an exciting and empowering journey.
If you’re wondering if you’re codependent, take a look at the following list of symptoms.
In other words, there's often a lot for them to "unlearn" in recovery.
In Twelve Step programs, and especially in Steps Four through Ten, PIRs learn how to develop healthy relationship skills.
So that you can then measure your life experience against that definition, in step #2.2.
Be honest about how you relate to others and yourself Understanding codependency at an intellectual level doesn’t do you much good.
Codependency is so ubiquitous that first of all, it’s hard to recognize. You need to do three things to determine if a relationship you’re in is codependent: 1.
You need to educate yourself until you have a working definition of codependency in your own words that you understand and cannot misinterpret.Many PIRs [people in recovery] also need help establishing healthy relationships.Some PIRs come from unhappy families in which emotional or physical abuse and addiction were common.You have to be willing to see traces of it in your own life and behavior.And you have to be willing to acknowledge all of your emotions, even if you’ve trained yourself to stuff them for years.When they were drinking and using, they may have grown used to doing whatever it took to cover up, excuse, or engage in their addictive behavior.