I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “It’s not the ideal situation for me.The gal that you're interested in dating is a single mom. You're drawn to her because she is very mature and independent (and beautiful, no doubt)—you like that.
Also, my friend’s ex had a kid that always wanted to sleep in his mom’s bed and that would be a problem for me. I want all the perks that come with a grown-up relationship.” “A lot of my friends are divorced and one guy even has a kid after a one-night stand.
There is nothing that makes a group of men, or any individual man, cringe faster than the notion of dating a single mom.
To others, the word summons horrific memories of blind dates that made you want to run for the hills.
For me, the word triggers memories of blown money, awkward silences, over-analyzed text messages, and just straight-up awkwardness.
The female race is an elusive and intimidating breed. In fact, I would venture to say that there are times when even they don't know what they’re thinking, so you have GOT to be on your toes. Once you think you've got them figured out, you get clocked in the head with their purse, and you have to look for another gal to date.
Now that you've got some fond (or not-so-fond) memories of dating bouncing around in your head, I'm going to throw another element into the mix that will make the dating game a little more advanced.
Moms make the best lasagna and give the best back rubs. You’ll get to take part in adventures to amusement parks, the zoo and the park.
She knows that life doesn’t always go as planned and has learned how to make the best of it. Single moms can do it all, but are super-appreciative of a helping hand.
Traditionally men view the introduction of children to be a big step.